The loving-kindness exercise was a simple way to tap into the
thoughts in my heart. I honestly can’t
say whether I did it for 10 minutes exactly, but I felt the sentiment of the
words and accepted it as a success.
These phrases are what I feel are my desires for those in my life
already, so it was not difficult to extend those feelings to those who I do not
know as well.
The Integral assessment allowed me the chance to pause and
look at my needs…to dismiss the tasks on my to do list and seek out how I can
help myself. Where am I lacking at this
moment? Hands downs, I am in need of
interpersonal help. As I work, attend
school, as a wife, and a mother to my kids…the to do list mounts as I lay the
burden all on myself. If I can come to
terms with the helpers in my life, communicating my needs, I know I can
strengthen my interpersonal life.
Sometimes it can be difficult to depend on others or not put others first all of the time. This is a fault that many of us can relate or fall in routine with, but it is important to take care of yourself as well. Otherwise what you put before you falters just as much as your different aspects of health can falter when one is out of balance. Have you ever noticed, that the few people that are very good at helping others out are usually the ones that have taken care of their own needs firsts?
ReplyDeleteIt is great that you were able to focus and identify the interpersonal quadrant as a desire to improve. I found this exercise to be helpful in terms of pinpointing exactly what lays sometimes unconsciously. I know what you mean about tying to keep it in the road, managing the family. As a suggestion, try to focus on one or two things someone can help you with on a consistent basis to lighten your load. It is so not easy being us sometimes!
ReplyDeleteHi Rochel,
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way about the loving-kindness exercise...these are requests that I already make, daily. When I feel a need to pray for someone or something…the Lord’s Prayer comforts me. Most of my prayers are directed for the children and animals in the world, but I do not limit my prayers to these two categories because everyone could use kind words or prayers.
Kristy
I really liked the first exercise and I felt very motivated and happy and positive afterwards. I too chose that I needed to work on my interpersonal life as well. That one to me seems like a harder one for me. Good luck :)
ReplyDeleteHi Rochel,
ReplyDeleteYou said it spot on, the integral assessment was a way that I could identify my own needs as well. Sometimes it is hard to figure out what these needs might be, at least for me. But when I am focused and free of distractions I can pick up on them better. I would like to work on my interpersonal level so that I can feel that I am making healthy relationships and helping others to do the same. I can relate to your busy life, although I would not change it for anything..incorporating integral assessment is needed. Thanks for sharing,
Lindsay